You're not pregnant are you?

You know, I really don't like this statement. It implies negativity, even before I have a chance to answer. It tells me that if I am, that the baby inside is already not wanted. It's already viewed as an inconvenience.

Then they proceed to tell say that I have shouldn't have another baby right now anyways! I need to get on my feet first. How much more on my feet do I need to be? We have a house (it's small, but more people have lived in smaller places), we have a car (will be out of the shop next week, insured, registered, and FULLY paid for) we have enough money to pay all of our bills, pay rent, and we have plenty of food to put on the table. What else do we exactly need?

These types of remarks form people, make me not want to even tell them if I am pregnant. Which I don't even if know if I am. I mean anything is possible with God, but we are not actively trying to have another baby at this point. We would like to wait until after Hannah's birthday, but we would happy to take another child at this time, if God so chose to bless us.

If I get pregnant, I want people to happy about it. I want to be joyful in my pregnancy, not sad because I feel judged by all those around me, who think that I need to get on my feet better.

So all this to say, that I much more prefer the question, "are you pregnant?" It seems more happy to me, and less judgmental!

Why I DRESS the way I do...

Some time ago I was attending a church, and the pastor's wife and daughters only wore skirts and dresses. I remember looking at them and thinking that I really seemed to like it. The pastor's wife always looked so nice. Even in just a jean skirt and everyday shirt. I thought she was very pretty, and found that she caused all focus to go to her face, instead of to the clothes that she was wearing.

After watching her for sometime I decided to ask about it. My first thought, was that she only dressed this way when other people were around. I thought, surely she doesn't dress like this all of the time. I was very surprised when I learned that indeed, she does dress like this all of the time.

So I decided to ask the pastor about it, and he gave me a book to read called What in the World SHOULD I wear. At least I think that is what it is called. It was a very small book, and I was amazed at what I was reading. There are some people that would tell you that in the Bible it says that women shouldn't wear pants. I do not believe that this is what it is saying. I believe that biblically women should not wear men's clothing. ie men's pants, shirts, hats, shoes..etc. They are women's pants and men's pants.

Anyways, the book talks about how your clothing should be a frame for your face, not a frame for your body. The quote that stood out to me the most was this. "Pants do nothing to hide a women's body, they just display it in a different color!"And how true that is!

So after giving it much though and prayer, and council with my husband I decided to change the way that I dress. Please understand I was not forced to do this by my husband. I actually had the idea first and brought it to his attention. He decided that he liked the idea, and said that he would happy if I did it. So when I became to big in my pregnancy to fit into my regular clothes, I gave all of my pants away, and switched to dresses and skirts.

I love it. I feel very modest. I don't have to worry about my pants being too tight, and slipping down then I sit or bend over. I feel pretty and lady like.

So we have decided that the girls in our household will wear skirts and dresses only. This is how they will be raised, and if they decide later in life to change that, then that is up to them. But I want my daughter's to grow up with an appreciation for modesty, and gender distinction. I want people to look at them and know that they are little girls.

No one cares to listen...

Boy, it's really hard when you are passionate about something, and no one will listen to you. They would rather just back away and watch the things they are saying, than to just listen to the ramblings that I so desperately want someone to hear. Anyone to hear! How are you supposed to learn anything and get out of you little bubble, if you are not willing to hear other viewpoints on things? All is does is leave me alone, and depressed, just wanting a friend who listen. Someone to understand. Everyone has their excuses. What's yours?